New Year, New Joy? Men's

Updated: Mar 11

New Year, Deep Joy

Resolution time

It’s that time of year again - You’re feeling a little gross from the copious amounts of food you’ve eaten over the last week, you’ve lost count of the number of times you’ve told Netflix that you are, in fact, ‘still watching’ and now you’re beginning to consider all of the ways you’re going to improve in the New Year.

How are those resolutions from last year going, ‘new you’?

For me, it was a glorious 17 days of less screen time and being in a strict calorie deficit.

However, my newly enforced habits inevitably came to a swift end.

As I plan all the ways I’m going to be a ‘better version’ of myself this year, I can’t help but feel like I’m teeing up for failure and disappointment, even with the best intentions.

This got me thinking:

What’s the point?

Start with why

You already know what the big hitters of New Year’s resolutions are:

  1. Lose weight

  2. Find love

  3. Travel more

  4. Get into a new hobby

  5. Make more money

What do these all have in common?

At the heart of it, we pursue these, or similar goals in order to take control of our lives and give ourselves more freedom. Ultimately I think it boils down to one thing that all of humanity longs for:


It’s a trap

But what if I told you we’ve been sold a lie.

None of these things will ever bring you joy.

You will only be satisfied once you make a little bit more money. You will only be happy with how you look once you gain another lb of muscle. You will only feel content once you get your handicap into single figures (a niche one for my fellow golf enthusiasts x).

Pick the carrot at the end of your stick, they’re all the same.

I know this all probably sounds fairly rich claiming that these things won’t bring joy, coming from someone who regrettably isn’t a multi-millionaire in peak physical condition (with a mere handicap of 12).

But don’t take my word for it.

The Bible says so

The preacher in Ecclesiastes puts it this way:

Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income. This too is meaningless. Ecclesiastes 5:10-11

So where does the Bible say we can find joy?

“If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.” John 15: 10-11

Jesus tells us that our joy is found in union and communion with Him.

God sent Jesus to die in our place so that we can be united with him, forever. Jesus’ death and resurrection means that we can live in relationship with God.

It is in this relationship that we can know true joy for eternity.

You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11

It’s important to note that this joy of knowing Christ won’t stop us from experiencing bad things in life. It means that we will be joyful despite these things.

John Mark Comer says this:

“Some of Paul’s most joyful, ridiculously upbeat letters in the New Testament were written from prison. Philippians was written from the confines of a drab, disgusting prison cell in Rome. And his letter is dripping with joy.”

Here’s the goal

New Years always feels like the perfect time to take step back, stop what you’re doing and realign how you live your life with your values.

Sort of like a big sabbath.

I’m going to make one big goal for this year and I would love for you to join me in making this your goal:

To love Jesus more.

I can’t think of anything more worthwhile.

Nothing will bring more freedom, more peace, more joy.

To help achieve this goal, I’m going to set 3 specific, practical actions to follow:

1) Pray Always

John Mark Comer (On the same page as his last quote, conveniently) has this to say about prayer:

“Prayer is talking to God. Prayer is listening to God. Prayer is making requests from the God who spoke the universe into existence. Prayer changes reality. Prayer rips open prisons, breaks off chains, and throws open new doors. It’s a fact.”

“6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7”

I think you could rephrase Paul’s words:

Worry about Nothing.

Pray about everything.

Thank God for anything.”

Like any relationship, communication is key.

Why not open your reminders app right now and set 3 daily reminders to pray?

2) Read Truth