New Year, New Joy? Men's

Updated: Mar 11

New Year, Deep Joy

Resolution time

It’s that time of year again - You’re feeling a little gross from the copious amounts of food you’ve eaten over the last week, you’ve lost count of the number of times you’ve told Netflix that you are, in fact, ‘still watching’ and now you’re beginning to consider all of the ways you’re going to improve in the New Year.

How are those resolutions from last year going, ‘new you’?

For me, it was a glorious 17 days of less screen time and being in a strict calorie deficit.

However, my newly enforced habits inevitably came to a swift end.

As I plan all the ways I’m going to be a ‘better version’ of myself this year, I can’t help but feel like I’m teeing up for failure and disappointment, even with the best intentions.

This got me thinking:

What’s the point?

Start with why

You already know what the big hitters of New Year’s resolutions are:

  1. Lose weight

  2. Find love

  3. Travel more

  4. Get into a new hobby

  5. Make more money

What do these all have in common?

At the heart of it, we pursue these, or similar goals in order to take control of our lives and give ourselves more freedom. Ultimately I think it boils down to one thing that all of humanity longs for:


It’s a trap

But what if I told you we’ve been sold a lie.

None of these things will ever bring you joy.

You will only be satisfied once you make a little bit more money. You will only be happy with how you look once you gain another lb of muscle. You will only feel content once you get your handicap into single figures (a niche one for my fellow golf enthusiasts x).

Pick the carrot at the end of your stick, they’re all the same.

I know this all probably sounds fairly rich claiming that these things won’t bring joy, coming from someone who regrettably isn’t a multi-millionaire in peak physical condition (with a mere handicap of 12).

But don’t take my word for it.

The Bible says so

The preacher in Ecclesiastes puts it this way:

Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income. This too is meaningless. Ecclesiastes 5:10-11

So where does the Bible say we can find joy?

“If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.” John 15: 10-11

Jesus tells us that our joy is found in union and communion with Him.

God sent Jesus to die in our place so that we can be united with him, forever. Jesus’ death and resurrection means that we can live in relationship with God.

It is in this relationship that we can know true joy for eternity.